For many years now, the wedding dress has always been in my mind- the dress. It’s the dress you hope your grandchildren admire in tastestfully framed photos lining your mantle. It’s an embodiment of love, and a symbol of utter joy to most. Tossing in these very iconic ideologies on bridal gowns, AND someone who works with couture fashion everyday and you have a recipe for a lot of fittings.
My experience has been nothing but overwhelming on the hunt for my dream dress. I went to the well known names in Manhattan, and I went to small boutiques. Touching hundreds of wedding gowns. Some already loved, and some soon to be chosen and loved.
I also found it difficult to pick because of all the pressure from so many friends I have. Everyone had their own opinion of what I should be wearing. Not that it is necessarily a bad thing. But it can be hard to hear your own voice when you are choosing something so sentimental. I’ve had a vision of what I have wanted for a long time. Ever since I could imagine myself as a soon to be wife.
My advice for brides is to not feel pressured to buy anything if you don’t absolutely love it. I know that sounds silly, and super obvious. I felt pressured to buy a dress in so many situations, but I didn’t love any of them. When I finally did say yes to the dress, I wasn’t pressured, and it was a very comfortable experience. I knew I was walking away with relief and not guilt.
In all, I found that the designer, the fabrics, and the amount of lace have nothing to do with how special a dress can be. (Although those are all extremely awesome things that I haven’t abandoned). I have seem so many brides say “yes” to a dress I would never consider. But the look on their faces made any dress they had on entirely enviable. It wasn’t just the most beautiful dress in the room when a bride says yes, but she is the most beautiful person at that moment. That type of happiness can be surfaced with a purchase of a dress, and that’s what makes bridal shopping so incredible. A bride doesn’t feel special just because of her dress, she feels special because she knows she’s finally getting married to the love of her life in that dress. I can’t imagine a more romantic or perfect moment. There’s something magical that happens when you finally find the one. I definitely feel that mine was for me the moment I tried it on.
I’m head over heels for my wedding dress, but more excited for what will happen the day I get to put it on.